In a society that often seems to feed off the idea of how we all “stack up” to one another. It’s hard to avoid the pressure of not feeling good enough. I know for sure this is something I have struggled with. We are often led to feel that if we don’t acquire certain things,milestones, goals or ideals among many other things (the list could go on and on). Somehow that means that there’s something wrong with us.
It seems in these moments we often forget all the wonderful things about ourselves. That add up to the one of a kind beautiful essence, that could only ever be our own.
Recently these feelings of doubt and not feeling good enough snuck up on me. Before I knew it I was doubting my own journey and if what I chose for myself ever really was the best choice. What I once so deeply believed in just didn’t seem as bright anymore.
The opposite and I guess more traditional path that people had told me so much about, somehow dimmed faith in my own. All of a sudden I was questioning my own abilities, what I wanted and if I good enough. It was safe to say I had lost my mojo.
Comparison Is The Thief of Joy
The whole element of not feeling good enough sometimes can stem from comparing ourselves to a benchmark that never meant for us. I’ve realised the only person I should be comparing myself too is who I was yesterday.
I feel like the saying “comparison is the thief of joy” rings so true. As getting so lost in comparing yourself to all these different benchmarks, goals and ideals just doesn’t work and can tear your self-esteem to shreds. You’ll be so much happier and content if you stay focused on growing yourself as a person.
The Mountains You Carry You Were Only Supposed To Climb
I’ve adopted this new perspective recently, from a quote I read recently from author Najwa Zebian, “these mountains you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb”. Which means to me instead of allowing this feeling of doubt to consume you. Change your perspective and realise what if this feeling, this obstacle isn’t there to defeat you, but to strengthen you.
You would never truly find strength within yourself if you didn’t struggle. Without struggles, naysayers, disappointments and failures. You would have no courage, compassion or strength. Ultimately all of those things are born as a result of struggle and pain.
There are so many things I consider today as real strengths of mine. That ultimately rose from the ashes from struggles and obstacles I had to find strength within myself to overcome.
When you don’t feel good enough. Remember that you are strong enough to handle any obstacle that comes your way. You are strong enough to overcome it. You always have been.